Nope. She's your mother and you're her daughter. That's the truth, and I'm sure it will mean a lot to her that you chose those necklaces.
Since I won't be there when she opens it, can we take a picture so she knows I have the other one?
Sure.
And it's really ok?
Honey, one thing you never have to worry about is how I feel about your relationship with Laura. I know you have two moms, and that's fine. I get to have you around all the time, and I know I'm your mother, too. It's not your job to take care of how I feel. That's my job. You take care of how you feel - and if you ever need to talk to me about that, you know I'm here.
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Jay, this is beautiful.
But there's something funny about the names...I'm wondering if there was a slip up that needs to be fixed? Wanted to give you a heads up just in case.
Yup, Jess, you were right, and I fixed it. Thanks.
First, your daughter is super sweet! It really will mean so much to Laura.
Second, you are a rock star at mothering and adapting to the open-adoption issues. I know it's been hard work to reach this zen level, and I commend you for it.
I thought of you when I read something today--an adoptive mom insisting that her kid doesn't have any identity issues though maybe he might develop some when he discovers that all those Vietnamese people look more like him than his mom does. Really, lady? She needs to read up on this adoption/identity stuff!
Thanks, Orange. It doesn't feel like work *now*, for which I'm grateful.
I have a really hard time responding to stories like the one you mentioned. On the one hand, I really can't tell other people what their children are thinking or feeling. On the other hand, come on.
My favorite recent one was the woman who said "do you think your daughter has all these issues because her birth mother is around? My niece was adopted and has never had any interest in her other family and she doesn't have any of that trouble". I manged not to say "And if she does, I'm sure she knows who she can and can't discuss it with."
Your wisdom is so inspiring. Thanks for sharing this story.
Wow. I think you deserve Mom of the Year Award.
Jay,
Now you knooooow how I feel about these conversation post. I LOVE THEM TO PIECES. Thank you so much for sharing and being amazing!
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